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Loving someone so hard to get their love in return or being loyal to someone to get back their loyalty is impossible.

Loyalty is a choice, love just happens.

If you love someone and you are not loved in return it’s ok, this is not your fault, and it is very important to accept that they don’t love you in return, because the moment you constantly tell your subconscious mind the truth that’s only when you can take control over your emotions.

“To love and to be loved in return is rare, and it’s everything”

It’s ok to love someone and show them how you love them, what’s not ok is to immediately expect them to show you love in return. They won’t be able to show you love in return because it’s simply not there, and you on the other hand is going to get hurt if you continue to have these expectations.

Trying so hard will either irritate the person or make the person you love pity you, and there’s a big difference between love and pity.
Often times people confuse pity for love, but within and in time they realize. It’s possible for someone who feels pity for you over loving them so much to begin to show empathy and care for you. It’s also possible for them to get really attached to you and want to be with you because they feel safe with you. This is when you will begin to mistake it all for love, but trust me love is still absent. 

Love is gentle, if you purely are inlove with someone, you will not demand their love in return or impose your love to get their love in return. If you do this, it just might not be love. 

Love cannot be imposed or demanded, it can not be bought with anything, it just happens.

Sometimes people blame love over their heart break when love was absent the whole time.

In place of love, alot of people confuse Lust, Infatuation, selfishness, and greed for love.
Love is powerful, in the sense that when you purly love someone it will bestow in you, Patient, Tolerance, Kindness, Forgiveness and alot more towards them. When pure love is shown, pity will never be what is reciprocated, because you are not demanding love in return, instead you are showing love in its pureness, and only this can make the one you love begin to develop affection, feelings and probably love you in return.

What to do when you are not loved back in return.

Patience and Acceptance 

Realize it’s not your fault that you are not loved back, be patient with your feelings, as you try to heal from your pains, be patient with the process.
Accept the truth and continuously resound it in your head. Do what’s best for you by letting go, in other not to keep suffering from the feeling of not being loved in return.

Realize you can’t control how people feel

We are all different, and we see things differently. No matter how hard you try, you can never control the way people feel.

Do not have expectations

Having expectations from people leads to disappointments. Hoping that someday that person will finally love you back is a big risk, move on anyways, if that day comes that’s that’s fine, if the day never comes you won’t be disappointed.

Talk about it with someone 

Most times talking about a problem is half way solving that problem. Also voicing out what boders you most times gives you a certain relief and clarity.

There are lots of misconceptions about love these days, but true love remains significant regardless.