Self pity is a dangerous feeling to dwell in, it’s like a magnet that keeps you glued to your misery. It’s a chain you must break to surpass misfortune.

Life is a to be experienced, life is full of ups and down, good times and bad times, ugly and terrible things happens in life, but remember, if there’s life, there’s always hope.


It’s ok to mourn, cry and ponder on bad things that has happened to us, but it’s never ok to dwell in them. Let go, as soon as you can, and reclaim happiness.

Often times the universe have a way of making things fall in place, there’s no experience in life that has nothing at all to teach you, except you didn’t see the lesson or keep an open mind to learn from it.

Over the years, you will remember that particular incident that you felt was going to take everything from you, but then, you realize it made you what you are today. It’s a process.

Self pity is dwelling on things that hurt you, feeling sorry for yourself, limiting yourself, disbelieving yourself, seeing life from just one perspective, being self absorbed, seeing the worst out of life itself.

 Self pity will make you hopeless and leave you helpless, it will blind you from seeing new opportunities, it will stop you from discovering who you are, and knowing what’s good for you, it will stop your growth in life generally. Self pity is the creator of depression.

I can’t say for other writers, but for me, whatever I write is not just mere words, my words are words that comes from the heart of experience, self pity will ruin you completely, it will slow down everything good coming your way.

You know how I know? There was a time I felt hopeless, I felt completely lost and clueless, I was drowning in self pity. And now, I realized I actually exaggerated everything, I also realized how much I wasted my precious time.


Your healing process is hastened depending on your mindset, if only you know how many beautiful people are waiting and longing for you out there, you will snap out of self pity.

For me, I kept an open mind to almost everything, I like to see things from different perspectives, I like to understand everything and am ok when I don’t understand somethings. This world is a very funny place and life is an enigma. I have come to realize that we are not in control of what happen in our lives, but we are in control of how it affects us.

Learn from everything in life.

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